Including when they have gone quiet. Each of you gets a battery, you can see what is running low behind it, and the suggestions are ranked by what has actually worked for that person — not by what works on average.
Coming soon to Android and iOS.
Sam has not checked in today. Sleep has been low all week.
Most relationship apps hand you a personality result and leave. Charged tells you how the other person is right now — which is the thing you actually needed to know before you asked at the wrong moment.
The battery is built from six needs. Tap it and you see which one is dragging, so “are you okay?” can become something more useful.
Their own word, an estimate with a stated margin, or nothing at all. It will say it is unsure rather than invent something about a person.
Suggestions are ranked by what has measurably lifted their battery before, not by what the research says about people in general.
A battery is one number. These are the six things underneath it, and any of them can be the one that is actually low.
Three of these are the basic psychological needs from Self-Determination Theory, the best-validated needs model there is. Stability carries attachment. Sleep and Body carry the physical half, which has the cleanest evidence of anything here — a lot of bad evenings are a sleep debt wearing a costume.
Open the app and it asks what has been going on. You answer in your own words — a sentence, a paragraph, a bad day described badly. It works out what moved and shows you, before anything changes.
Confidant
Anything you want to catch me up on?
Third night this week I've been up past two. Work's fine, I just can't switch off.
Suggested changes
“up past two”, three nights running
“can't switch off”
Nothing moves until you say so. Every suggestion quotes the words that justified it, and you can drop any of them — including all of them.
What you write is never shown to your partner. They see that your sleep is low. They do not see the sentence you wrote about it.
If something you write suggests a crisis, it drops everything else and shows you help. No adjustments, no battery change, no product noise over the top.
Your Confidant is a good listener and a fast first draft. It is not a therapist, and it does not pretend to know you better than you do — you are always the authority on your own state.
Nine questions a month, and you both answer the same ones. Their answer appears only once you have written yours.
Reading theirs first turns your answer into agreement. The waiting is the point, and it is enforced by the database rather than by good manners.
Three easy, three that cost something, three that are properly honest. Opening at maximum intimacy makes people close up; escalating is what works.
A fixed list gets exhausted and abandoned. These change on the first, and both of you get the same nine.
This app holds information about your emotional state. That deserves stating up front rather than burying in a policy.
Anything you write in a check-in is never shown to your partner, in any sharing mode. They see how you are, not what you said about it.
Everything, just the number, or nothing. Enforced in the database rather than hidden in the app, so no version of the app can route around it.
No advertising, no third-party analytics, nothing sold. Charged is paid for by subscriptions, which is exactly why it does not have to be paid for by you.
Safety features — crisis detection and every helpline — are free forever, including on a cancelled account. A crisis line behind a payment wall would not have been worth building.
Whoever pays, the other never sees a payment screen. Charging the second person to take part in something the first already pays for is a toll gate on the half of the couple that is hardest to keep.